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Offline CharlesB

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RAPE IN PRISON
« on: October 11, 2008, 09:09:20 pm »
" Keep in mind that many experts consider county and local jails to be more likely places for rapes than prisons...Do not think that rape will only happen in prison. If you have to go to county jail prior to your trial and while awaiting transfer to prison, a sexual attack is very likely to occur there. This can all depend on the area you live in. If you are in a rural area with a small jail, of course the chances will drop. But if you are in a metro area, Los Angeles County, New York’s Rikers Island, Miami’s Dade, and Chicago’s Cook being among the worst, your chances of being raped are going to skyrocket. Especially, and this is not a racist statement, if you are white"-Scott Anderson, a former prison guard.

RAPE IN PRISON

by Scott L. Anderson.       

Prison rape. I can guarantee you that those two words are the first thing that popped into your head when you heard you were on the way to the slammer. There is no way to sugarcoat this issue. You may be raped when you go to prison. I am not trying to scare you. It is a serious, real issue. Here are some facts:
It is estimated that there are over 300,000 instances of prison rape a year.
196,000 are estimated to happen to men in prison
123,000 are estimated to happen to men in county jail.
40,000 are estimated to be committed against boys in either adult prisons or while in juvenile facilities or lock ups.
5000 women are estimated to be raped in prison.

Remember that these are all estimates. Most rapes are not reported.

Sexual attacks in prison are considered rape when penetration occurs. It is estimated that inmates are approached with unwanted sexual advances over 80,000 times per day in the United States alone.

Keep in mind that many experts consider county and local jails to be more likely places for rapes than prisons. There is a reason for this. You are more likely to be raped while in prison if:
You are young.
You come from a middle-class background.
You are white.
You are not street smart or have no gang affiliations.
Physically you are of small stature.

By the time repeat or career criminals get to prison they have normally made the circuit through foster homes, juvenile lockups and reform schools where rape is very common. So by the time they actually make it to the big time they are well schooled in this fact of prison life and quite often they are the attackers not the attackees.

This guide is for the person who has never done any kind of time. Do not think that rape will only happen in prison. If you have to go to county jail prior to your trial and while awaiting transfer to prison, a sexual attack is very likely to occur there. This can all depend on the area you live in. If you are in a rural area with a small jail, of course the chances will drop. But if you are in a metro area, Los Angeles County, New York’s Rikers Island, Miami’s Dade, and Chicago’s Cook being among the worst, your chances of being raped are going to skyrocket.

Especially, and this is not a racist statement, if you are white. Consider that of the total number of estimated prison rapes:
13% involved white inmates raping white inmates
29% involved black inmates raping black inmates.
56% involved black inmates raping white inmates.

This comes to a grand total of 85% of prison rapes being committed by blacks, with 69% of the victims being white. The rapes of white inmates are normally done by gangs of blacks and somewhat in the open so that other inmates, but not staff, can witness the attacks. The blacks involved are generally in the joint for crimes such as armed robbery or severe assault cases.

One of the reasons for this situation is that whites lack solidarity while in prison and unlike the population on the outside, are the minority on the inside.

Scenario #1. A white middle-class man, let’s say a car dealer, is picked up for sale of cocaine, and is locked into a communal cell with four black inmates, all whom have done substantial amounts of time in prison. The white man is of small stature and has no street smarts. The chances of him being raped:. Damn near 100%.

Scenario #2. Same situation only this time the white is a solid member of a biker gang that has ties to inside the prison walls. He himself has been in several times. Chances of rape in this situation: Practically zero. The black inmates are smart enough to know that they may be able to out muscle this man and rape him, but the long-term ramifications are not worth it. Without even talking to this man, the blacks’ years of experience in prison will give them the sense to leave him alone.

While I was an officer in Moose Lake/Willow River (Minnesota) prison I worked a unit that held two Native Americans, one black, one Asian, a younger white inmate, and an older seasoned inmate. When it finally came to the attention of the staff, it turned out that the young white inmate had been raped repeatedly over several months by the black and Indian inmates, but not by the Asian or the older inmate. It also turned out that no advances had ever been made toward either of those two. Note that the seasoned inmate did not join in on the rapes, but never tried to stop it either. That is just the way things are in prison. There is no brotherhood of man when you walk inside those gates.

There is a class system of three groups in prison involving prison sex.

Group #1: The predators. They are known as jockers, studs, wolves, and pitchers. These inmates will sniff out new victims and will almost always attack in groups. Of the three groups these are the inmates who consider themselves “men.” “Men” in prison have not ever been penetrated or raped; if this is done to them, they immediately lose this status. They never consider themselves homosexuals but some probably are and for their safety will never admit it, just as some of these men have been victims of sexual assault and will never admit it. A number of these inmates also don’t have much of a taste for rape, but do it to protect their own status so they themselves could be turned on.

Group #2: The jailhouse queens. These inmates actively carry on a female-like existence and will dress as femininely as they can within the regulations of the prison. There is a lower percentage of these inmates in prison and thus are cherished by the jockers. They are referred to in female terms and are called “her” or “she” by both prisoners and staff alike. Quite often these inmates will have somewhat of a permanent relationship with one of the stronger, established wolves, even though it is not uncommon for the wolf to lend his gal out to his buddies to pay off a debt or for some other reason. Other names used for queens are bitches, ladies, and whores. They will often refer to their assholes as “pussies.” I once had a queen tell me that she f**ked like a woman, but fought like a man.

Group #3. The punks. Also called f**k boys. These inmates are the younger, weaker, normally white inmates who have been “turned out” by the stronger inmates. They are normally assaulted within days of arrival and these attacks will keep up until they either get protection, are locked up in protective custody, or turn queen themselves. The queens normally look down on punks with disdain. Punks are down on the same prison level as child molesters. Often they are sold to other gangs. They have an extremely high suicide rate.

Suicide rates in prison are estimated to be 15.4 per 100,000 inmates in all the states averaged out, with the exception of California, which has an astronomical 179 per 100,000. Penologists believe that the number one cause of suicide in prison is rape, with AIDS and depression from being in prison being the two runner up reasons.

AIDS/HIV is six times the national average in prison. When inmates rape, they don’t wear condoms.

You can always spot a punk in prison. Often they shuffle around like mental patients and will have extremely poor hygiene in an attempt to stave off future attacks. Rarely will they alert staff to what is going on. I approached several of these inmates while I was an officer to offer them help and they never accepted.

How do first time inmates defend against rape? They will either pay for protection, join a gang, or they can be “sponsored” by a relative or friends before they even get there. But I have seen fish (rookie) inmates so big and f**king tough that no inmate even wanted to think about taking them on.

If it happens, it will most likely happen in a dorm or shower area. But anyplace will do if it is out of sight of the officers. My advice to you if you are not protected in some way and you are attacked is to FIGHT back as hard and as loud as you can. AIDS is a death sentence, so that’s the biggest reason. The second reason is once you are raped you are considered in prison circles to have lost your manhood. If you find out you are being singled out and do not have protection, I would also consider striking first against one of the main wolves, although return violence is sure to occur. The problem with this is that you are going to wind up in the hole with maybe some time added to your sentence and things may not have changed when you are released out of segregation.

If you are cornered and things aren’t going your way, some people think that a way to avoid being raped is to tell your attackers that you are HIV positive and have AIDS. This may work as a quick fix but it more than likely will also result in you being severely beaten if not killed. AIDS in prison is a very sensitive issue with both officers and inmates. Security staff aren’t even told who has AIDS, due to privacy rights issues.

Do Not Be Passive. Stand Your Ground.

If you are young, small, and white, your chances of being attacked are higher. If you are getting middle-aged, the chances will drop. Don’t even drop your guard though.

In a minimum facility there is a much smaller chance of rape as inmates don’t want to screw up chances of their release. In maximum joints, the chance is much higher because inmates have longer sentences and less to lose. In medium facilities always remember that a good share of your fellow inmates are former maximum inmates so the chance of rape is always there with them. County jails have a very high number of rapes reported.

Many officers that you are going to come in contact with think that most inmates are homosexuals and they deserve what is coming to them and they will often turn their backs when they feel a rape is being committed. Officers have been known to allow a rape to go on if they are working in a high-risk facility and think that doing so will help keep the stronger inmates in line. I can tell you for a fact that the number one worry of all corrections staff is that if there is a riot, they are going to get f**ked in the ass, the men that is; the woman really have something to worry about.

An officer that I know who was working in the Atlanta federal penitentiary in 1987 during the Cuban riot there, told me that every hostage taken in that riot had been raped.

After you’ve been locked up for a while you are going to get horny. My advice to you is to masturbate. Alone.

If you decide to get your rocks off and pay some queen to let you screw her, you will not have protection. Remember the AIDS factor. Is it worth it? Even if you decide to just get a blowjob from one of them, you risk the chance of making her “Daddy” jealous and that can open another can of worms.

Soft-core porn magazines are available in most prisons. Check out the chicks, use your imagination, and jack off in your sock.

You are trying to survive the joint. Not live in it.

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Offline CharlesB

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Re: RAPE IN PRISON
« Reply #1 on: October 11, 2008, 09:09:53 pm »
Jail/Prison is not a logical or reasonable place.  It is a violent place and predators will not be concerned about adding another charge.  That's from my opinion and experience. I would not say that rapes in jail are rare.  "123,000 are estimated to happen to men in county jail."

http://www.justdetention.org/

http://www.hrw.org/reports/2001/prison/voices.html

http://www.justdetention.org/en/ppadvice.asp

For Prisoners:
Protective Custody: Pros and Cons

If you are in "general population" and are a target or a victim of sexual harassment or assault, you may be considering "checking in" to "protective custody," commonly known as "p.c.," as a way of avoiding such situations.

While conditions in p.c. vary greatly from one institution to another, life there is always more restricted than in "population," and often it is little different from punitive segregation. Some large prisons have separate p.c. facilities, within which there is a little more freedom of movement. But in most jails and prisons p.c. is a status you have while housed in administrative segregation, and conditions are much the same as for prisoners awaiting disciplinary hearings.

You can ask around to find out what p.c. conditions are like in your joint. In most such areas, you are restricted to your cell 23 hours a day and served food (often no longer hot) on trays, without choices or seconds. Exercise may be limited to pacing back and forth, or solitary pursuits in a small gym or courtyard without much if any equipment. You cannot go to the library or law library and may have little choice of reading material; you can't watch television or see movies or go to school or work or meetings or religious services. You'll have to do without ice or hot water, and may only be able to shower once or twice a week. You may be kept in solitary, which is very boring, or you may have a cellmate. You may not be allowed to have all your property and there may be restrictions on what you can order-sight unseen-from the canteen or commissary. You may have no control over the light in your cell. You don't have to work and you can catch up on your sleep, but after a few days that can get boring, too.

Prisoners "check in" to p.c. for safety, and usually do get it, but unfortunately that is not guaranteed, for there are too many accounts of prisoners being raped even in p.c. Someone who "checks in" because he got into too much debt to a gang and is housed with you may be as violent as anyone in population and have no scruples about putting sexual pressures on you in a situation where you can't get away from him. If p.c. prisoners are housed together with guys waiting for disciplinary hearings, you may be on the same tier or even in the same cell as a guy who is not only violent but angry at being locked up in seg and happy to take his frustration and resentment out on you.

If you "check in" and someone who has been harassing you also gets locked up, you may well be suspected of being a "snitch" or informer, causing additional problems when you return to population. Even if that doesn't happen, your checking in will convey a message to guys in population that you aren't strong enough to deal with the pressures there, making you even more of a target should you come back. Even if you didn't get raped, somebody may try to impress the others by claiming that he got to you first, before you checked in, and you'll have no way of contradicting that report as long as you're in p.c. A lot of people will consider the fact that you checked in sufficient proof, that's why they call p.c. "punk city." Of course, if it is already obvious that you can't defend yourself, and you don't give up any names, you have little to lose except your own comfort by checking in. On the other hand, if you are willing to fight for yourself you may be better off staying in population and putting up a fight, because often the other guys will just be testing you. and if they see that you are not afraid of a fight they will either back off or will not rape you even if they win.

This is a choice which only you can make, but sometimes it is good to get advice about it from someone who has been there a while and knows the guys who are menacing you, is himself not interested in your body, and also can keep his mouth shut- such as a relative, an old man, a queen or punk, a devout member of your religion, or someone you know and trust from the street.

If you only have a short time (a few months or less) remaining in the joint and are having serious problems in population, or if you are determined to stay in p.c. until you get transferred elsewhere (even if that takes months), then checking in until you leave the joint may be the best thing for you. Some loners can handle very long stretches in p.c., and if you are one of them count yourself lucky. If you don't mind it there, why leave?

But for most prisoners the isolation involved eventually gets to you, you start climbing the walls, and after a number of months this may affect your sanity. Because space is usually tight, staff will probably urge you to return to population after a while and may well insist on it no matter what you say. For these reasons we do not generally recommend thinking of p.c. as a permanent solution to problems of harassment in population.

If you need to get away from everyone in order to think things through, or to avoid certain rape, or to recover from an attack, then checking in for a limited period may be just what you need. It will give you breathing space, time to sort things out at your own pace and with much less pressure, plan your strategy, recuperate, and let your wounds (psychological or physical) start to heal. Normally, if you check in voluntarily, the staff will let you go back to population whenever you feel ready to face it.

You can use the threat to check in as a bargaining chip in trying to reach a compromise with other prisoners while in population, since if someone wants to use you sexually he wants to keep you out there where he is. Some examples of situations where this is useful is in getting someone to settle for head instead of taking your ass, declining to be involved in prostitution, turning down a persistent suitor who wants to make you "his kid," getting your Man (if you are "hooked up") to treat you better, or telling a gang to leave you alone. Threats are useless, however, unless you are willing to back them up by actually checking in, even for short time like a week, if your threat is disregarded. In such cases, checking in is like going on strike, and if you are not a good fighter it may be the best tool you have to bargain with. You can always think of it as a chance to catch up on your sleep, write letters, and finally get through some enormous book.

If you want to check in and staff is making it difficult, insist on your right to protection and tell them you want written documentation of their refusal to give it to you, so you can sue them for damages if you are hurt or raped. You do not have to tell them who the problem is; the statement that you are in serious danger in population is sufficient. If all else fails, refuse to re-enter your housing even if ordered to do so.

For most prisoners, p.c. is a jail within a prison, and functionally equivalent to additional punishment. Nobody should feel they have to accept what amounts to punishment as a condition of their safety, so if you don't want to go to p.c., defend your right to stay in population. If the staff checks you in even though you want to remain in population, you will have to go along with it, though you should protest at every opportunity, file a grievance procedure. If they hold you in p.c. for months, insist on a transfer and take it up with the warden or sheriff and outside politicians and bureaucrats who oversee the institutions.

If you are already in p.c. then you know what it's like. If you are thinking of going back into population, try to listen to a copy of the audio tape Becoming a Survivor, put out by the Safer Society Program, for practical advice to consider before you go back out. The more prepared you are, the better off you will be. Ask the psychologist and the chaplain if your joint keeps a copy available. If not, SPR can have a copy sent to you, free, if you request it from us. Unless you can directly receive cassette tapes that are transparent but not sealed, you should arrange to have the tape sent to you care of a psychologist or chaplain and have them play it for you.

Remember that you have just as much a right to be safe from sexual assault when you are in population, even if as a practical matter that right may be harder to preserve. You may feel that running away from the problem will not solve it and that you have to deal with it again. You may be ready to compromise and hook up with someone you know will protect you. You may want a second chance to prove yourself in combat, though you should know that fighting after you've been "turned out" is a lot more serious than before, for a number of reasons. Whatever your reasons may be, remember this: if you test the waters and find it's still too hot for you, you can always check back in again.


Offline CharlesB

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« Reply #2 on: October 11, 2008, 09:10:24 pm »
PRISONER TO PRISONER ADVICE      
          Hooking Up: Protective Pairing for Punks
by Stephen Donaldson

Note: this advice article was written for incarcerated heterosexual male survivors of prisoner rape, but provides a good description of a unique form of sexual relationship which is an important part of the culture of confinement.

As long ago as 1826, shortly after the building of the first penitentiaries, Louis Dwight described the practice prisoners now call "hooking up" and we call protective pairing, an informal arrangement which has remained ever since the collective response of prisoners to the problem of ongoing sexual assault in confinement. There is historical evidence for similar relationships among the ancient Romans, medieval Vikings, and the Caribbean pirates of the 17th C. In most joints the overwhelming majority of rape survivors who remain in or go back to general population do become hooked up as members of such pairs, however distasteful they may find the idea, because they believe it to be the least damaging way to survive in custody.

One reason why this custom has survived for so long is that the alternatives for the known rape victim are usually even more unacceptable. These are a series of very serious and bloody fights, and maybe a lot more time; suicide (a permanent "solution" to a temporary problem); repeated exposure to gang-rapes; paying someone for protection; and permanent consignment to "protective custody" in Seg. This last option, p.c., may not even be safe, staff may not allow you to stay there indefinitely, and solitary can drive you crazy if endured for too long. If you're short or only in jail for a short time or a real hermit, you might as well do the rest of your time in p.c. and you don't need to read this. Otherwise, as the authors of Men Behind Bars: Sexual Exploitation in Prison, who studied the problem at length, concluded: "For the majority of these `targets' the best and safest coping strategy is to `hook up' with a jocker." Still, it is your choice as to which path, none of them good, you want to take.

This brochure is written for those rape survivors who are in and want to stay in population, or who are in p.c. and considering going back into population; who are considering getting hooked up or are already hooked up; and who are punks (we do not use the term "punk" as a put-down, just as the most common and widely understood term for prisoners, usually straight or bisexual youths, who have been forced or pressured into an unwanted passive sexual role), rather than gays. Much of this information also applies to queens, but since gays usually have more experience and fewer problems relating sexually to males, this is written specifically for punks.
General description of protective pairing

Prisoners take hooking up very seriously, for it involves a commitment on the part of both partners, which neither can break (as long as they remain hooked up) without major consequences. The quality of these relationships ranges enormously, from virtual slavery and complete exploitation at one end to a mutually supportive, tender and human exchange of affection at the other.
The senior partner, or "man" in prisoner slang (also called "daddy," "old man," "jocker," "pitcher," and other terms), in a protective pair is most often not a rapist himself, though he may take advantage of the consequences of a rape by offering protection to a new punk. Sometimes a rapist will try to hook up with his victim. In any case he obligates himself to provide complete protection for his punk or junior partner (also called "kid", "boy," "sweet boy," "f**kboy," "catcher," and other terms) from further sexual assaults from anyone else, from violence, from theft, and from other forms of disrespect. Usually as soon as it becomes known that you are hooked up (and the news will spread like wildfire), everyone else will back off and stop hassling you, and deal with you only through your "man." Any "daddy" who fails to protect you will be seen as weak and may thereby make himself a target for sexual assault. Sometimes two or more buddies will share the "daddy" role, and in many joints a whole gang will take control of a punk.

These "pitchers" are usually straight, sometimes bisexual; they consider their punks to be substitutes for women, and they usually do not consider their own penetrative sexual acts or their relationships with punks to be "homosexual," just masculine, though they may think that what you have to do for them is "homosexual." In a broad sense, they habitually treat their punks the way they are used to treating their women on the Street.

The punk has to give up his independence and his control over his own body to his "man" as the price for this protection. He has to put out sexually in a passive role, giving up head or ass or both. This deal is never totally voluntary for the punk: it is often coercive, the alternatives are frightful, and it is motivated above all by the need to survive in a place where the punk has been marked as a perpetual target for gang-rape and other forms of abuse. But it is still very different from a series of violent gang- rapes, and, in the age of AIDS, far safer. We call these relationships "survival-driven" from the punk's perspective.

A punk often is able to choose his protector from among various candidates, especially if he is willing to put up a fight (even knowing he'll lose) or is not in a particularly rough joint, and he may be able to establish a relationship of mutual concern, which is a far cry from the pure exploitation of the sexual assaulter. It must be understood, however, that the "pitcher" makes the rules and the "catcher" follows them. In a particularly tough joint, a punk may be no more than a slave, but usually the relationship allows you some leverage or room to maneuver and have your wishes considered, as long as you respect the basic rules of the relationship.

While a jocker will never tolerate open rebellion, he usually seeks to get along with his punk and avoid an atmosphere of constant tension. He would rather relax around his punk, and over time he can and often does develop genuine affection for him and allow a considerable degree of give-and-take in the non-sexual aspects of the partnership. But the sexual part is pretty fixed and you can't really hope to get out of it.

It may be very hard for you to deal with belonging to somebody else and having to substitute for a girl and satisfy a guy sexually, but at least you only have to do it with one guy or a small number, rather than anybody who can catch you. Your risk of infection with the AIDS virus is greatly reduced, often to zero (see SPR's AIDS and the Rape Survivor). You don't have to fight at all and can avoid physical injury, and it is some comfort knowing that a dead punk is of no value to anybody. Often hooking up will improve your financial situation as well, since a jocker is expected to see that his punk gets the canteen necessities of life.

Hooking up means you have definitely become a punk and will be considered a punk for as long as you stay in the joint, so if you decide to hook up, you might as well get used to that status. Your "old man" will control all sexual access to you, and will expect you to do what he tells you. Some daddies share their punks with their buddies. Others will make you turn tricks for canteen goods, drugs, or other favors.

You may well be given duties other than sex: for example, doing laundry, cleaning his cell, making up his bunk, fixing coffee for him, or giving him backrubs.

The advantage of protective pairing with one guy is that the two of you can get to know each other very well, especially if you cell together (which is to your advantage), and that makes for a more human relationship. You are less likely to be seen as an object to be used and exploited, and more like a junior partner. Much depends on the jocker, because guys vary enormously in the way they treat punks: some beat their punks and mistreat them, others get very affectionate and take good care of you, and there is everything in between.

A small partnership among 2 to 5 jocks who are friends and cooperate harmoniously with each other is pretty secure for you, and means you aren't as dependent on the whims of one person, but such arrangements are not as common and may not be stable.

The advantage of hooking up with a gang or tip is that their protection from people outside the gang is a pretty sure thing, and they can keep you in canteen goods. The disadvantage is that you have to sexually service the entire gang, which may seem like just a gentler form of gang-rape, and it is harder to develop a personal relationship because your time and attention are so divided. In some joints, gangs may be so strong that you have no choice but to accept a gang's claim on you. Many gangs will force punks into prostitution.

If one of the other prisoners does try to put pressure on you after you've hooked up, tell your daddy about it right away; he'll handle the matter.

The whole compound will know as soon as you get hooked up that you are someone's kid. It's an essential part of the system, so don't fight it. All the booty bandits and other jockers have to be warned off. It isn't always verbal, and a lot or all of the staff may never find out. For instance, you may eat all your meals together with your "old man"; people will notice and draw the right conclusion. Once you are hooked up, you will be respected to the same degree that your jocker is respected. Nobody will be allowed to hassle you or dis you, for that would be seen as the equivalent of dissing your jock. Once you are hooked up and seen as belonging to someone, a rape by anyone else is cause for a very serious fight, so it is rare.

It works best if you are housed together with your jock because then he can protect you better. If you're in different blocks, it's hard for him to look out for you. If you share a double cell with each other, then nobody can enter that cell without permission from him or you, and you'll have more privacy and plenty of time to talk with each other and keep misunderstandings from arising. On the other hand, if you share a double with someone else, strange guys may not refrain from entering it, and it can lead to tensions between your partner and your cellie.
Staff attitudes

The attitudes of the keepers towards pairs vary a great deal. Most veteran guards and administrators are realistic enough to recognize that protective pairing minimizes the violence in the joint, and that you don't really have much in the way of alternatives, so they won't press the protective pair very hard, often not at all. But officially they still consider your sexual activity a violation of disciplinary codes, so you have to be discrete and careful to keep sex out of sight of the cops. See our handout on dealing with staff. Rookies often try to enforce every rule in the book, and cops may be prejudiced and homophobic and go out of their way to catch you. And sometimes you'll run into higher ranking officers or staffers with a homophobic bee up their ass about sex between prisoners and you'll have to really watch out. You don't want to get caught having sex, so you should always pay attention to security and don't be foolish. Fortunately, security is mainly your "man's" job and you can generally leave it up to him to make sure you don't get busted. It doesn't hurt to remind him of that duty from time to time, since horny guys sometimes do get carried away and start thinking with their dicks instead of their heads.
Understanding jockers

The basic fact of the matter is that most males, when separated from females, and especially when they're young and full of sex hormones which make them horny all the time, can become sexually aroused at the thought of penetrating anyone, regardless of their real sex. The nerves which produce pleasure in the dick don't ask if it's a girl's mouth, a boy's mouth; an ass or a pussy. For these guys to be turned on and horny doesn't really require any kind of feminine qualities in you, though the jockers usually prefer to imagine such qualities so they won't have to think of their attraction as homosexual. That's why they'll try to tell you you have feminine qualities even if it's not true.
When locked up, men get bored with beating off and lonesome and start looking for someone else to provide sexual relief. Also there's an unexpressed human need for touch and intimacy and prisoners don't recognize any other way to meet that need. It is also a question of men feeling a need to confirm their own sense of their masculinity, which they feel is somewhat compromised by the fact that they're locked up, by functioning in their accustomed male sexual roles as penetrators and dominant controllers. Prisoners all have to constantly take orders from the authorities, which makes them feel like slaves of the state. As a compensation they like to find a way to be the boss with someone else and give orders themselves. Sex is a vehicle for a jocker to express all these non-sexual needs.

At the same time only a very small fraction of prisoners the queens enjoy being sexually passive, taking care of another guy's dick. This tremendous imbalance between the demand for catchers by most of the fellows and the very small or nonexistent supply of available willing partners is extremely important to understanding the way prisoners relate to each other. There's no way to increase the supply of queens, so all the effort goes into trying to "turn out" new punks. Unfortunately, the main means by which they turn out punks is rape and the threat of it.

Jockers frequently loan out their punks to their friends, usually as a way of ensuring their loyalty to him or to reinforce his position as a leader. In a way, this is good for you, since the more backup he has, the safer you'll be. And when he's not around, you can turn to his friends in an emergency. Sometimes it is just a way to repay a favor. Jockers know you won't get pregnant by someone else. They may, however, be afraid that you could get infected with AIDS and for that reason keep you, or at least your ass, to themselves. You should encourage them to do so.

Since many jockers have very little money, those who are poor are very tempted to use you as an asset with which to make money or get canteen goods. In fact, some jocks (especially professional pimps from the Street) will hook up with a punk for no other reason. In effect they continue their pimp trade on the inside. Avoid them if you can. When you're put "on the block," your old man lets other guys know that you are available for a price and the other guys negotiate with your "owner" and then he tells you what to do and with whom and when. If you have a chance to negotiate with a jocker over this, try to get a veto over particular customers, and especially try to limit it to head jobs, in order to keep the risk of AIDS low. Some jockers will keep everything they get this way to themselves, more will share it with you 50-50, and there is every possibility in between. If you can possibly do so, find a jocker who will not rent you out at all.

Jockers will almost never switch roles with you or let you penetrate them, and they may get very upset if you even suggest it. Some of them may be willing to jerk you off, but most don't want to be reminded that you even have a dick. It is very important to them that they stay within what they consider the "man" role. They may, however, be willing to consider other human needs of yours, such as the need for affection, for touch, for comforting, and they will often try to see to it that you are as comfortable as possible while having sex. Within the rules of the game, most jockers try to get along with their kids as well as possible, so as long as you live up to your part of the deal they won't get mean or hurt you. If you make them happy, you are even likely to find that over time, they'll become grateful, and try to keep you relatively happy, too. But don't expect that gratitude will ever go to the extent of relieving you of your sexual obligations.

Jocks can treat you like a slave and sell you to some other jock whenever they get tired of you or run out of money. They can also fall in love with you and get very jealous of anyone else. It takes all kinds. Some of the jocks who play the gorilla game and act extremely tough, callous, and cold-hearted will relax once they get hooked up and learn to trust you and show a whole different and unexpected side of themselves.

You have to understand that for jockers the world of confinement is one of constant competition, with everyone looking for a weakness. So guys put up a false front which never admits any vulnerability. But this makes them less human. When they get hooked up, they have someone to relate to, who is no longer an actual or potential competitor. Especially when you've accepted their claim, they can feel you're on the same team. Thus they can relax, and become very gentle if they want, and as they learn to trust you and you show you can keep confidences to yourself they may tell you things about themselves that they would never tell other jockers. They may share their own anxieties and fears and their deepest feelings, and they will listen to you as you learn to trust them and can talk about your own feelings. Thus you have a good chance at developing a human relationship where each of you really cares about the other and you work together to keep the relationship smooth. Generally the older the jocker is, the more likely he is to want to develop a real partnership with you rather than just get his rocks off.
Choosing a daddy

This usually has to be done pretty quickly or events will overwhelm you and you may get gang-raped or forced to hook up before you can make a choice. But if you want to have a choice, as soon as you decide to hook up you should tell the other prisoners; the word will get around fast and guys will then start to talk with you about it. It can get pretty hectic.
The relationship begins when a jocker puts a claim on you, and you accept or recognize the claim, either voluntarily or under duress. If more than one guy wants to claim you, you'll usually get to choose, but sometimes the jockers will settle the matter among themselves and you'll just be stuck with the winner. If you have some time before you have to make a commitment and you can keep your head straight about it, you can often get more than one guy to become interested in you; this allows you more choice and greatly improves your bargaining position. Often there is such a strong demand for punks that jockers start competing for you right away in any case. Since the character of your partner will be the most important factor in shaping your further experience behind bars, and jockers range from assholes who only abuse and exploit their punks to lonely fellows looking for someone to really care about, it is important for you to try to get a choice.

If you have any negotiating room at all before committing yourself to someone, discuss what he expects from you in detail and try to work out the most favorable arrangement. Even put it in writing! Probably the single most important thing has to do with avoiding AIDS: get him to agree not to f**k your ass without a condom or let anyone else do so. If he insists on f**king your ass, try to get him to not let anyone else do it, to "keep your pussy for himself alone." A lot of jockers like the idea of keeping "pussy" to themselves even if they'll make you give head to their friends or for pay.

Spend as much time as you can with the jockers who want to hook up with you; ask them lots of questions and judge for yourself how sincere they are. Ask other prisoners (especially punks and queens) about their reps. The more information you can get, the better your choice will be. Once you make it, you are pretty much stuck with it.

You'll want to know if the jocker wants to "put you on the block" (which unfortunately is pretty common), whether he has ever shot up drugs (and therefore might carry the AIDS virus), whether he'll settle for head or insists you give up your ass as well, whether he'll allow anyone else to f**k your ass or keep it for himself, whether he'll loan you out to his buddies, whether he wants to cell with you, and what the relationship means to him.

Check out how serious the guy is. Protective pairing is a very serious matter for him as well, since it obligates him to put his life on the line if necessary to keep you from harm, and if you are foolish or stupid and f**k up, he may have to suffer for your mistake. Ask him about any previous catchers he's had and how they managed together and why they split. If any of them are still around, talk with them. Ask him what he feels his responsibilities would be and what yours would be. Also ask about canteen arrangements.

Jockers may well insist on having sex with you before putting a claim on you. It's not an unreasonable demand, since sex is such an important part of the deal, and if he's willing to limit himself to head it makes sense for him to find out if you can satisfy him that way. But make sure you're both serious first, or anybody could use it as an excuse to go up in you. You can tell a lot about a jock by how he behaves with you sexually. If he breaks contact with you right after he comes, it may be a sign of discomfort and guilt on his part or that he sees you as just a piece of meat. On the other hand, if a jock stays with you for a while after he comes, even stays inside you, it may be a sign that he likes your company and is attracted to you as a person and not just a sex object. Also, if a jock shows affection with you, such as stroking your body or hair, it is a good indication that he wants to treat you as a human being.

Ask jockers how they treat their women, because most jockers treat their punks the same way. If they form real partnerships with their women, they are more likely to do the same with you.

Nitty-gritty details

As a new punk you won't know diddly-squat about your sexual duties, so here are a few practical tips: to avoid AIDS, learn to suck dick. In fact, learn it so well you can do deep throat and he'll forget all about your ass. The trick is relaxation, not easy at first, to be sure, when you feel the whole thing is absolutely disgusting, but for your own good, you need to learn to relax using any technique that works for you. In order to avoid gagging, wait til your stomach is empty (1 hrs after meals), so there's nothing to barf. If you do throw up, do it on the floor and not him! Train yourself gradually. Meditate, say mantras, anything that gets you to relax. Stop thinking of the dick as an invading foreign object; if you can get over that perception, you'll be OK. Try to take deep breaths whenever you can and breathe through your nose. Practice holding your breath like a swimmer. If he f**ks your skull so hard you think you're about to pass out from asphyxiation, you should grab his legs and signal your distress. Most likely he'll be about to come and won't let up, but it'll be over real soon.

The first few times you get f**ked in the ass, it hurts bigtime. If you have to get f**ked in the ass, again try to relax as much as possible and get him to slow down. It will hurt less, and if it keeps happening you will get used to it and it won't hurt at all. Be sure to use some kind of greasy stuff (vaseline, hair cream, etc.) as a lubricant, and a condom if at all possible. If you are hooked up, your jocker will usually try to minimize any pain that might be involved. After all, he wants to keep your resentment and complaints to a minimum.

A dick up your ass may well physically stimulate your prostate gland, and you may experience that as pleasurable. You may even get a hard-on while being f**ked, just as a physical reaction. And some punks will find the sexual experience arousing. Many guys have some homosexual feelings even though they are basically straight. You don't have to put a label on yourself just because you have a variety of feelings.

Punks sometimes agree to switch out with each other or "take turns" sexually, since this is about the only way you can take a penetrative role instead of a passive one. As a punk you come under a lot of pressure to act less masculine, and you will naturally resent this pressure inside and feel a strong need to act in masculine ways whenever you can get away with it. This need can make the urge to experience what a lot of people call "the male role" in sex very powerful. It is an understandable compensation, a way of proving to yourself that you're still a man, so if you do it, don't feel guilty about it. If you want to take turns with another punk, it is best to clear it with your jockers first. The jocks usually don't object since they know the other punk is not a rival for them.
Breaking away

When your "man" treats you bad and you want to get out of the situation, it's a tricky situation, but it's not hopeless. Maybe he's dissatisfied too and is willing to let you go, in which case you are back to square two. If he wants to keep you, he may get violent to do so. You can check in to p.c. and get transferred as one way out. Another way is to let other jockers know that you want to switch and encourage one of them to make a deal with your current jock to take you over. He may buy out your contract, so to speak. Sometimes if he wants you badly enough he'll fight your current daddy in order to get you.
A punk who successfully breaks away from his jocker and becomes independent is called a "renegade." There are also some independent punks who never hook up. Unless such punks have learned to fight well, they usually end up with another jocker.
Adaptation

Human beings are remarkably adaptable creatures. It is true that if you become a punk and are locked up for a long time, you will get somewhat used to the punk role. This varies a lot from one punk to another. Some still hate every sex act after a decade of doing it every day. Others focus on other aspects of it and find some value in those aspects. Some treasure the security it brings. Many punks who have good relationships actually become fond of their jockers. It is not even so uncommon, in the unusual conditions of confinement, for two straight guys to fall in love with each other over time. Psychologists generally consider adaptation to be a healthy reaction to a situation which you cannot change, so don't worry about it if you find yourself adapting to the role. Once you are out you can reverse the process and work on reclaiming the full expression of your masculine identity.
Unfortunately, many (if not most) jockers will try to get their punks to be as feminine in appearance and behavior as possible. That is because they are more comfortable pretending they are relating sexually to some kind of female than to another male. But they also know that you are a punk, not a queen, and that such things don't come naturally to you. You should ask about such things before accepting a claim, and make it clear that retaining your masculine identity is important to you. Some jockers don't care; I was hooked up once with a guy who let me grow a moustache! Most will still call you "him" and use your male name. Others may insist that you shave your legs and grow long hair and get a feminine nickname. No matter what you have to do, remember that it is all an act and you can go back to your normal behavior as soon as you get out.

Sex is a very complex experience. It has many aspects which have nothing to do with lust. Being penetrated is an intense experience; it can give you an adrenaline rush. Being touched can be a pleasant experience, regardless of the sex of the person touching you. Being held has been a comforting experience for most people since they were babies, and it can seem very protective in an environment where gang-rape is a grim reality. Being desired can seem like a tempting alternative to being ignored, especially if you've been ignored all your life. Intimacy itself can be very powerfully attractive if you feel isolated and lonely. It is quite possible that you may delve further into these feelings, which are general human feelings. That doesn't mean you are sexually turned on to the guy, it doesn't mean there's lust or sexual arousal or homosexual inclinations. Besides, if experiences alone determined a person's sexuality, we'd all be in love with our hands.

That's a lot of advice, but if it's a whole new world for you, you'll need it. Good luck finding a decent man, and remember you will leave it all behind (except for a much better understanding of men and of women!) when you walk out the front gate.

PRISONER TO PRISONER ADVICE      
          Predators: Who They Are and How to Avoid Them

This was written based on experiences at the Michigan Department of Corrections (MDOC) and the advice is relevant to other prisons, too. While you are an inmate, you will need to learn the rules you are expected to follow. Since you will be around other prisoners all the time, you also need to know how to determine if a prisoner is a predator.

What is a Predator?

A predator is someone who preys on other people to get what he wants. There are several kinds of predators who you will come across as a fish (a new prisoner). Inmates will squeeze (prey upon) you for your store goods, property, favors, and even for sexual purposes.

Predators prey on the weak. Once a predator "tests" you, that inmate will try to determine what he can get from you. If you ever give in to a predator by giving him what he wants, he will be back for more.

There are only some people you will run across who have bad intentions. It's up to you to find out "who's who." Listen to your inner self. It is always good to go with your gut feeling about someone. Other prisoners are often helpful in letting you know when you are hanging out with the wrong person. You can be certain that if a few prisoners say the same thing about someone, then almost everyone else will, too. That's your rep (reputation). It will follow you wherever you go in this system.

There are some people you must learn to avoid. For the most part, that will be easy to do. The less a predator sees you, the less you will be confronted. Keeping in view of the correctional officers is also a good idea.

By learning how to recognize predators and getting them to leave you alone, you will make your time here more comfortable and safer. This pamphlet is designed to do just that, by giving you knowledge about these types of prisoners as well as showing you some ways of dealing with them.

Cues to Spot a Predator

A prisoner who always stares at you - This person is doing so for a reason. You are getting checked out. The best thing to do is ignore him, no matter how uncomfortable that may be. If the staring is getting you upset, then leave the scene. You could also confront the person with a greeting to see what he wants. By doing so, you show that you are aware of him staring at you and that you are willing to stand up for yourself.

A prisoner who continually tries to talk to you - This person wants something. If you don't like being bothered, tell the person directly, face to face, eye to eye, and then walk away. You've made your point and there is nothing more to say. Anytime predators see you get frustrated or upset with them, you feed their fire.

A prisoner who tries to borrow things - Here you are being tested. If you give him what he wants, he will always be back for more! Prison is not a place to be kind.

A prisoner who offers you things - If someone offers you store-goods, food, cook-ups, etc., don't accept it. Nothing is free. Most likely, he will want something later, like double back or even a sexual favor.

A prisoner who is too friendly - Be careful around prisoners who want to help you all the time, or do things for you.

Power trips - Predators get their high by controlling other people. If you see a prisoner who likes to boss others around, you should stay far away from him.

Bathrooms - Predators like to hang out in the bathroom to sneak a peek. Rapes often occur in this spot, when the bathroom is closed for cleaning or late at night. Get dressed and undressed in the shower. Don't give them anything to look at. If you are in a place where the showers are all in one room, take your shower when everyone else is. The more people who are around you, the less likely you are to get in trouble.

Gang recruiting - Beware of prisoners who try to recruit you into their gang. Protection is never guaranteed, and if you have money, gang members will try to take it from you. Remember, if you are labeled as being in a gang (STG'd), this information goes on your I.D. and into your prison file, which the parole board will see.

Strategies to Stop a Predator

Body language - You are judged within three seconds of someone first seeing you, by how you carry yourself. Walk with certainty, head up high, shoulders back and squared. Learn good posture. When you carry yourself with assurance, presenting yourself confidently and securely, you will see that people will give you more respect.

Take your time - As you arrive at a new facility, it's good to take your time and observe everyone. Don't be quick to talk to people or reveal much about yourself. As you become familiar with the people around you, watch and listen for those you can respect and feel comfortable hanging around.

Don't ask for things - Some prisoners have access to things you may need or want. There are hustlers and people who thrive on putting anything to use. Some of these people are legit but many seek favors of some kind. So, be careful who you deal with.

Keep your hair short - Having long hair can seem very effeminate to other prisoners and can cause you a lot of problems. Keep your hair short and avoid the trouble.

Grow facial hair - If you are young or good looking, growing facial hair will help. The older you look, the better; the more you can hide your appearance the better your chances of avoiding a sexual predator.

Hang out with a crowd - When you are walking alone, you are an easy target. Hang out and walk with someone. This way you will be much less likely to be approached by a predator.

Know the power - It is a good idea to be friends with a prisoner who is well respected. It is a good deterrent for predators, plus that person can help to diffuse or "squash" a problem you may have with another prisoner.

Get loud - Most predators don't like other prisoners to know their business. If a predator is quietly revealing his intentions to you, you should speak in a loud voice back to him. By putting his "business on the street," he will think twice about approaching you again.

"I'm not like that" - If a predator is pressing you sexually, the best thing to do is tell him you are not like that, you want nothing to do with him and then walk away.

"I'm busy" - One good way to avoid talking to someone is to say that you are busy and keep right on going. Hopefully, he will get the hint that you want nothing to do with him and leave you alone.

Leave! - Anytime you find yourself in a bad spot (e.g. being in or near a heated argument, fight, etc.), turn around and leave the area. Getting "caught up" in a situation can get you into a fight or even a major misconduct ticket.

Protection - You never need to pay for someone to keep you safe. Inmates who have the possibility of going home (non-lifers) may stick up for you verbally, but would hardly risk getting into a fight. Money for protection is nothing more than a trick to get your money.

Birds of a feather flock together - This old adage is true. If you are seen hanging out with a known homosexual, for example, other prisoners will think you are one, too. Be careful who you hang with.

Avoid high-risk places - There are blind spots in every facility, on the yard and in the units. These are places where it is difficult for the officers to see. Learn where these spots are located and stay away from them.

Fighting - Only defend yourself if you are physically attacked and can't get away. If you get a major misconduct ticket for fighting, you can only use "self-defense" as a defense to the charge if you meet the requirements (In the Deerfield Correctional Facility, these seven requirements may be found in the Hearings Handbook located in your law library).

Snitching - If you have done all that you can do, and a prisoner just refuses to leave you alone, then you are left with no choice but to inform staff. This is especially true when you are physically threatened or touched in any way. Depending on the situation, you may be moved to another unit, or even to another prison. Although being labeled a snitch is not a good reputation to have (and in the high-levels it can be dangerous), two good things should happen: predators will leave you alone to avoid trouble, and only the real people will still hang around you, liking you for who you are and not caring about their own reputation.

Conclusion

Remember that you must not be afraid of anyone. Stand up for yourself. If you are threatened, in most cases you can talk it out or walk away.

There is only one picture on your I.D. You are here to do your time and not obey the commands of other prisoners. What you decide to do while you are inside will determine your future. Make positive changes and take advantage of the programming that is offered. Change takes time, so never give up. You can do it!

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« Reply #3 on: October 11, 2008, 09:22:02 pm »
Stephen Donaldson: Classic Writing By and About the Former SPR Leader

Former SPR President Stephen Donaldson was not only the first American jailhouse rape survivor to publicly discuss his experiences, he was also an outspoken and unabashed representative for rape survivors and a fierce critic of policies on prison sexual assault.

Donny, who headed SPR from 1988 to his death in 1996, was brutally gang-raped in 1973 after being arrested at a Quaker pray-in at the White House. Instead of letting the attack destroy him, Donny called a press conference and testified about his assault at the Washington D.C. City Council. That experience was the beginning of lifelong effort to improve policies on sexual abuse in custody. Donny wrote extensively about the horror of prison rape, lectured on prison sexuality and created SPR's influential amicus brief for the groundbreaking Supreme Court case Farmer v. Brennan.

Donny spoke about prison in a language that was sexually explicit and unashamed. For some readers, his language may be too strong; for others, his ideas about sexual identity may be controversial. But as Donny wrote in his provcative 1993 essay "A Million Jockers, Punks, and Queens," "these questions remain on the table even if we choose to ignore them."

Donny died July 18, 1996 at the age of 49. His death was caused by an "indeterminate virulent infection complicated by an AIDS-defining condition" contracted as a victim of prisoner rape.

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« Reply #4 on: October 11, 2008, 09:44:14 pm »
If there were truth in advertising, "prisons" would be called what they really are -- monster factories!

This is yet another reason to end (not "reform") the insane drug war, since that is what gave rise to our disgracefully high prison population in the first place.
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« Reply #5 on: November 24, 2008, 11:15:51 pm »
If there were truth in advertising, "prisons" would be called what they really are -- monster factories!

This is yet another reason to end (not "reform") the insane drug war, since that is what gave rise to our disgracefully high prison population in the first place.

Yeah, it's just an excuse for them - for profit and control.

They have been real happy to use the term "war on....." - ever since the "war on drugs". When it's really a "war on liberty."
And dying in your beds, many years from now, would you be willin' to trade ALL the days, from this day to that, for one chance, just one chance, to come back here and tell our enemies that they may take our lives, but they'll never take... OUR FREEDOM!

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« Reply #6 on: October 22, 2010, 01:57:05 am »
does anyone know how or who to get help from to get justice of some kind for being raped in the county jail? my husband tried to kill himself over it and was hurt (still thinks something isn't right up there) and when released from a 90 day dui sentence and he was not drunk or on drugs, he was over medicated on polypsych meds and the judge didn't see the difference of a psych patient or an addict. his psych had him on about 8-10 medications of all kinds and he was also a pain management patient so the 3rd day he was there, it was at night and he felt so sick he thought a shower would help and that most people would be asleep or not around, he saw the shower area was empty. he went in, took off his clothes and then 3 men entered behind. 2 held him against a pole, the actual rapist kicked him in the stomach several times and in the kidneys as well the 2 men let go of him and he fell down on his knees, the rapist then kicked him totally face down and said is it going to be easy or hard, it's up to you but it's going to happen. well after it happened my husband laid there a while and then saw the blood from the rectum and felt sick. he went to report it but before an inmate can talk to the authorities you must go through the trustee who he told and then he was told by the trustee that a snitch gets killed and to just not report it and forget about it. this caused more depression and suicidal thoughts. he made friends with a guy who protected him from anybody trying to bother him. my husband is a slender  blond good looking guy which didn't help him in this situation, i think. after his release, he tried to commit suicide and then was taken to a special psych hospital that deals with trauma and was re-diagnosed with complex ptsd (he still has flashbacks) and severe chronic depression which had been brewing for years. this was the straw that broke the camel's back. he was hospitalized and with therapy and medication changes he's better but the bottom line in the group and therapy is that he thinks the flashbacks and fear will only go away with some form of justice. i don't know what kind, but some kind. is there anyone out there that knows what to do or who to contact to get this thing acknowledged? he can get help from victim services once he's deemed a victim and he needs help. i don't want his flashbacks or depression make him want to die. i love him. we both had aids tests and hep c tests and thank god we came out fine but the mental scars are so severe for him. please email me at thepastblast at hotmail dot com if you have any info or suggestions, i hardly know how to find this site :) thank you all so much and to those of you who were victims, my heart goes out to you. thank you and god bless you all.

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I'm new here and the last thing I want to do is try to discredit or disrespect anybody. That being said, in my situation and in my friends situations, I disagree with a lot of the info provided. I'm in California, southern California to be exact, and I've served small amounts of county jail time while awaiting trials for smaller crimes that I was not convicted of. It's guilty until proven innocent though and luckily I was only 18-19 at the time and living with my parents, so it didn't wreck my life. I also have close friends who have been in and out of prison. The reason I disagree with a lot of the info is because it generalizes and leaves out some key factors. When I served my time it was in a county jail near Los Angeles. I can honestly say that "rape" did not cross my mind and I was told by a friend who did substantial amounts of time that it should not be, ESPECIALLY in a county jail. Jail/Prison is a fight for survival and a mental game that, at least in my area, did not include rape but definetly included murder. Knowing what I knew, I stayed with my race and made aquantances, not friends, right away within my race. The rules are basic, don't disrespect anybody and ALWAYS stand up for yourself. In jail I didn't feel the need to always have a weapon, though from first hand accounts from friends, you do not want to get caught without one in prison. Now I am white and I was young, but thinking smart, staying mentally strong, and running with my race(not a gang, that's just the way it is) proved to keep me safe. Very similar stories from friends of mine in prison. I did not see or hear a single rape, but I did see A LOT of assaults. That's one reason I disagree with some of the info provided, personal experience. Another is that prison/jail have different internal codes of conduct in every state, sometimes nearly 180 degrees different. Also the statistics and estimates provided left something out, and not to be racist AT ALL, but it left out the largest prison population: Latinos/Latinas. I'm not going to go commenting on any other jail then the one I was in, but I don't want everybody thinking that your going to go to jail and get raped, because where I am at that's simply not the case. I also don't want whites thinking that everywhere they serve time they are the targets because that is state based. Again I mean no disrespect and I'm sure some of the info provided is fact or somewhat fact based, I just had to put my side of the story in. I will say this though, the guards there don't give a damn and about you or if you get hurt or raped. There are a few good ones. I feel horrible hearing your story pkabu, makes me literally nauseous, I can't imagine myself in that situation. I don't know how to legally get justice, especially if he doesn't have names. My prayers are with your husband. Make sure he understands that it was not his fault and that he is definetly NOT "less of a man" because of it. Hopefully he is physically healthy now and can get around the mental part, must be hard. Best wishes to you. Thanks for hearing my .02 everyone.